What To Expect In The Menopause

We Are Not AloneI want to uncover something that is considered a truly taboo subject to help women understand what to expect going through the menopause and stop them feeling that they are alone.

I am 53 years of age and I have always tried to look after myself through eating well and exercising. Over the last 10 years I have noticed lots of different things that has happened to my body which I did not necessarily have the answers too.

I have never been a maternal individual and I always felt, that having come from a big family that as soon as I met the right person things would change. I did meet the right man in 2014 and we quickly fell in love. Neither of us had any children and both felt it would be the right time for both of us. Unfortunately, it was too late and despite often thinking I was pregnant, it turned out it was the start of the menopause.

I now know that my symptoms probably started around 2013 when my periods started to get a little heavier and I started to experience sweating during the day for no apparent reason. Sometimes I had moments of forgetfulness which did not help me when I was doing presentations at work.

Thankfully, my experiences were relatively minor, and I changed my diet, added in a few supplements and this has certainly helped me a lot. I stopped having periods about 16 months ago now and other than the odd evening sweats I do not experience any other issues.

So hopefully if you are wondering what is happening to your body you are not alone. Around 6,000 women every day and 1 million in the UK every year, are going through the menopause and experiencing some same issues as you.

Let us demolish the taboo!


Most women will experience the menopause symptoms between the age of 45 to 55. Some women might get these symptoms as early as the age of 35 and some will keep experiencing until their 60’s. The menopause is influenced in the main by our hormones just like our periods did.

The menopause starts when our body experiences changes in our oestrogen levels and the storing of eggs starts to decrease. The chances of conception become diminished as less oestrogen is produced. Slowly our period cycle slows and becomes erratic until a point that it stops altogether. At the time we have not experienced periods for over 1 year, it is deemed that menopause has finished.

Some women will experience the following in varying degrees and some of us will not have any or all of these.

Hot Flushes

Short, sudden feelings of heat.

Night Sweats

Flushes and sweating at night

Difficulty Sleeping

Tired and irritable night’s sleep

Reduced Sex Drive

Lack or no interest in sex

Memory LossEarly Signs

Difficulty in remembering things or lack of concentration

Vaginal Dryness

Discomfort, pain, and some itching


Occurring more regular especially if never had before

Mood Swings

Low mood or anxiety


Increased levels of heart rate

Joint Aches

Joint stiffness, aches, and pain

Muscle Loss

Reduction in muscle mass

Urinary Tract Infections

Urine infections


Weakness in bones

Weight Gain

Waist disappears as the weight increases

Increased Risk of Disease

Greater risk of Heart Disease, Alzheimer

How To Manage Your Symptoms


Many doctors will offer you the opportunity of taken HRT to help you get through this difficult time. There are different types so ensure that you get the one that is right for you as they can be effective.

If you are suffering with the effects of cancer, then HRT is not recommended.

Experiencing Hot Flushes & Night Sweats

Wear Light Clothing

Keep Bedroom Cool

Cold Showers, Fans & Cold Drinks

Reduce Stress Levels

Avoid spicy food, caffeine, smoking and alcohol

Weight Loss

Regular Exercise is important including strength, cardio, and flexibility workouts

Menopause Foods

Finding a good diet that is right for your lifestyle

Collagen supplement will aid to help our skin, muscle, joints, and bone as we age





Mood Swings

This normally occurs as you start to feel more anxious about the smallest of situations. Rest and especially ensuring that you get enough sleep is key for your health.

Try relaxing with Meditation, Yoga, or Tai Chi techniques.

Reduced Sex Drive

HRT or a Testosterone Supplement can help

Vaginal Dryness

Oestrogen Treatment. Some over the counter moisturisers or lubricants can also help.

Weak Bones


Weight Training

Healthy Diet – Include calcium and eating plenty fruit and vegetables

Sunlight – Vitamin D which you can also get from fish bones such as Anchovies

Cut down on smoking and alcohol

Might wish to take supplements such as Vitamin D and Calcium

DHEA (Dehydroepiandrosterone)

Is a pro hormone which is found in the body and is a pre cursor to hormones. DHEA is said to be the mother of all hormones as it effects our major organs such as the heart, brain, skin, immune system, muscles, and bones. It is said that our body will deplete in DHEA as early as our late 20’s so by the time we reach the menopause it is no longer available for us to use.

As our ovaries start to falter during the menopause our body starts to become depleted in oestrogen and progesterone. To make up for this hormonal decline pressure will be put onto our adrenal glands to produce more DHEA. Depending on our needs this inactive hormone will convert into oestrogen and progesterone.

Many specialists state that taking a supplement of DHEA can really help with the menopause as it helps with hormone imbalance and replacement.

DHEA has many benefits all its own as well as easing the symptoms of the menopause.

Keeps the weight away

Reduces stress and fatigue

Prevents mood swings, anxiety, and depression

Improves brain function

Removes vaginal dryness

Boosts Libido

Strengthens the bones and builds muscle

Prevents dry skin, hair, and nails.

Science has proved that DHEA taken as a supplement can have enormous effects to help us through the menopause. It can help to look after our adrenal glands that work so hard at this time and together with eating well and getting regular exercise can ensure that we have less disruption to our everyday life.

Consult with your doctor or physician to find out more.

How You Feel Going Through The Menopause

Unfortunately, the menopause makes you feel less of a woman and sometimes that is difficult to come to terms with it.

It is hugely disruptive to what is considered as a normal life as your body is now having to cope with many adjustments and hormonal changes.

The mood swings become intense and what is worse is that you do not even notice, but the ones you love around you certainly do. Sometimes you might become angry or sharp for no apparent reason. You might find that you cannot handle criticism as you used too especially if you are at work and this can lead to unnecessary crying.

Some symptoms can be more severe than others and you might find that over the years some either decrease or increase over time.How You Feel Menopause

Due to the changes with heart rate and blood pressure you might start to experience dizziness and nausea which can become quite discerning.

The aches and pains around the joints and muscles can start to become quite inflamed and this can also lead to fatigue.

Concentration can really start to be a challenge and mental forgetfulness can play a part to your whole life.

All these symptoms can become really testing for you at work and in your personal life. Several women often lose confidence as they are on ‘tender hooks’ for the emotions to start to flood in unnecessarily.

All these issues can become overwhelming, but it is perfectly natural to go through and you are not alone.

How Long Does The Menopause Last?

This is difficult to say as each woman is different and it becomes very personal.

As an average you will generally go through perimenopause about 4 years prior to the menopause which exists until you have gone 12 months without a period. Postmenopausal symptoms then exist shortly afterwards.

In total symptoms could last an average of 10 years.


Whilst I know that this is something that I never wanted to talk about whilst going through the symptoms and found myself in denial most of the time. I want to say that you should not be embarrassed.

Going through the menopause is perfectly normal and there is plenty of help there that you can receive.

Looking after yourself is so important and finding help to ensure that you are at the peak of health means you need to sleep, eat well, drink plenty of water, exercise incorporating strength training, cardio and mobility work and find ways to relax.

It is always important to seek medical advice as this will show where your imbalances are. Dr Miriam Stoppard has also written a really good in-depth book about the Menopause – The Complete Guide To Maintaining Health & Well Being and Managing Your Life.

Once you find a way to look after yourself better than life can be as exciting as ever.

If you have any questions or comments, then please let me know below.



  1. Sami

    While your experiences are quite common to the whole menopause world, coming to terms with it is a sometimes difficult thing as well.  For all of us, this journey is different.  I think that not having children changes your perspective a bit also.  As each of us approaches this time in our lives, we do need to take a bit of time for ourselves to evaluate what we are doing to help us come out stronger after the “change of life” time is survived.   Having watched as family members entered this period in life, it is soon apparent that everyone is surely individual for how the changes in their bodies affected them.  

    The first thing that seems important is to arm yourself with information.  Do what you can to help yourselves.  All too often there are increased family responsibilities about this time.  Kids are growing up and experiencing issues of their own, making then a bit more difficult to deal with.  Your parents are ageing, needing your help more.  There are more things to be concerned about, making it harder to take time for yourself, exercise, watch your nutrition needs and just take a deep breath occasionally.  Your article is a good read for helping women be aware.

    1. Imelda Easthorpe

      Thank you Sami,

      I really appreciate your comments on this subject. Yes, everyone’s journey is different and you are right in saying that it is important to take time out for you.

      Thank you so much

  2. Jacquie

    Hi Imelda, and thank you for this article. I am around the same age, and I know I didn’t give menopause any thought until it crept up on me. The first thing I felt was hot flushes. I remember sitting in a train, not knowing what was happening. The next day as the same symptoms happened again, I suddenly guessed what it was. So strange.

    I can also relate to the emotional changes, but can say during that time, I was also going through issues that would create anxiety or stress at any time. So it is hard to say what the main contributors were. 

    I know at that stage I started to see a psychologist for “anxiety” and was given that diagnosis, but from what I can see looking back, it was the stressful situation itself that was the biggest contributor, and the only way to deal with my anxiety was to get out of the situation. Nevertheless, the more I look back, I can see an underlying factor of my ongoing menopausal symptoms… but of course the doctor or psychologist didn’t mention that. 

    Internally I was thinking at the time that is was more related to me being more confident and assertive in speaking up and complaining about issues that shouldn’t be left aside. I felt during that time I got better at speaking up and confronting in more assertive way. Yet others (including my children) have said a lot of it was unnecessary and that I was being aggressive. 

    So it is all a very interesting to look at this from different angles. You have given me food for thought. Thank you

    1. Imelda Easthorpe

      Thank you so much Jacquie,

      I am so pleased that you have shared your comments on this subject as I feel that there is a number of people that will be in your position.

      Hopefully, if I can help a few to feel better will be some way to help others.

      Thank you 

  3. phillip

    Great post here. Having the knowledge about so many areas of life is actually good and this is especially interesting because it is in line with my thesis paper that I am still writing on menopause presently. I actually like the fact that you have given more than enough information concerning menopause and what constitutes it. Also, the changes in the body metabolism too. Thanks

    1. Imelda Easthorpe

      Thank you Philip,

      It is interesting to hear that you are writing a thesis on the menopause and I would love to know about information that you are finding out. Always great to share.

      Thank you so much and I appreciate the feedback.

  4. Rohit

    Menopause is a very sensitive subject and there is lack of information regarding this subject. You have done a truly great service by discussing this taboo subject. You have demolished the taboo already!

    Besides discussing what is happening to your body during menopause, you have also listed out few quick tips which is helpful in overcoming the various physical pain experienced during this period. This comes in handy and provides lot of relief to women experiencing menopause which is otherwise not available elsewhere. 

    The worst being the feeling of not being a woman. This could easily lead to anxiety and various other problems related to mental agony.

    This is a great article. Maybe one of the first ones to discuss such a subject. Thanks for sharing.

    1. Imelda Easthorpe

      Thank you Rohit,

      I really appreciate your comments on something that is so sensitive yet so many women are going through this every day. Hopefully I can help others and get rid of the stigma.

      Thank you so much

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